03146cam a2200301 i 4500 381027851 TxAuBib 20190508120000.0 180517s2018||||||||||||||||||||||||eng|u 2018022096 9781250151308 28.99 1250151309 28.99 eng rda TxAuBib rda Burgo, Joseph, (psychologist.) Shame [BOOK] : free yourself, find joy, and build true self-esteem / Joseph Burgo, Ph.D.. New York : St. Martin's Press, 2018. xviii, 299 pages ; 25 cm. txt rdacontent n rdamedia nc rdacarrier Includes bibliographical references (pages 297-299.) The shame spectrum -- The shame family of emotions -- The inevitability of shame -- Unloved and left out -- Exposed and disappointed -- Joy and the birth of self-esteem -- Shame and the growth of self-esteem -- The masks of shame -- Avoiding shame -- Social anxiety (Lizzie) -- Indifference (Dean) -- Promiscuity and addiction (Noah) -- Avoiding shame in everyday life -- Denying shame -- The idealized false self (Anna) -- Superiority and contempt (Caleb) -- Blame and indignation (Nicole) -- Denying shame ineveryday life -- Controlling shame -- Self-mockery (Nora) -- Self-hatred (Ryan) -- Masochism (James) -- Controlling shame in everyday life -- From shame to self-esteem -- Shame defiance and narrow identity -- Shame resilience and expanding identity -- Building pride -- Sharing joy -- Appendix 1: Pre-test scoring and discussion -- Appendix 2: Exercises -- Acknowledgments -- Notes -- Bibliography. Encounters with embarrassment, guilt, self-consciousness, remorse, etc. are an unavoidable part of everyday life, and they sometimes have lessons to teach us-about our goals and values, about the person we expect ourselves to be. In contrast to the prevailing cultural view of shame as a uniformly toxic influence, Shame is a book that approaches the subject of shame as an entire family of emotions which share a “painful awareness of self.” Challenging widely-accepted views within the self-esteem movement, author Joseph Burgo argues that self-esteem does NOT thrive in the soil of non-stop praise and encouragement, but rather depends upon setting and meeting goals, living up to the expectations we hold for ourselves, and finally sharing our joy in achievement with the people who matter most to us. Along the way, listening to and learning from our encounters with shame will go further than affirmations and positive self-talk in helping us to build authentic self-esteem. Richly illustrated with clinical stories from Burgo's 35 years in private practice, Shame also describes the myriad ways that unacknowledged shame often hides behind a broad spectrum of mental disorders including social anxiety, narcissism, addiction, and masochism. Provided by publisher. 20190508. Shame. Self-control. Self.